How to go from dating to a relationship

How to go from dating to a relationship
For some people, the terms “dating” and “relationship” mean exactly the same things. For others, dating is more casual and may involve seeing other people, while “being in a relationship” indicates a certain level of seriousness and definite exclusivity. Taking things to the next level can be difficult, but what most people struggle with is the conversation about the transition from casual to serious.
For some people it’s quite clear, or it may seem that way for one person in the relationship but not for the other. Some people consider different things to be clear signs of a relationship: having sex, meeting the parents, meeting each other’s friends, etc. It all depends on the person and what they consider to be the transitioning move.

"You might find yourself simply acknowledging the seriousness of a step, for instance, meeting the parents, and your partner will agree that it is a big step in a r-e-l-a-t-i-o-n-s-h-i-p. Bingo, you got that conversation done. "

Regardless of where in the dating scheme you and your partner are, some people feel more comfortable having an open conversation and discussing things. Being in a relationship does not mean you have to move in together, get engaged or married and have kids. For the majority of people it’s just a simple conversation that confirms you care about one another and that you are exclusive.

There are different ways to go about the relationship talk. In some cases, the lucky ones, the conversation is spontaneous. You might find yourself simply acknowledging the seriousness of a step, for instance, meeting the parents, and your partner will agree that it is a big step in a r-e-l-a-t-i-o-n-s-h-i-p. Bingo, you got that conversation done.

If you are not so lucky, you may actually have to actively start the discussion that clarifies where you stand to make sure that you're both on the same page. When it comes to starting this dreaded conversation, something has to lead into it. You cannot simply grab your partner and say “Listen, are you serious or are we wasting time?” This is not a good idea for numerous reasons. Among them is the fact that it sounds like an ultimatum and that you may break up unless your partner proposes or makes some equally grand gesture. It also puts enormous pressure on your partner to answer an unexpected question about your status as a couple.

"Give him/her some time to figure things out…just not too long."

Some people simply like to take their time when it comes to deciding that they’re in a relationship, not because they’re scared or don’t want to, it’s simply the way they are. You need to respect that, be patient and show your partner that you enjoy your time together. Give him/her some time to figure things out…just not too long. You don’t want to be together for years and still not really know whether you are simply dating or in a relationship!
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